Duggar Family FAQs

Please tell me how you and Jim Bob met and fell in love. When, where, etc?

Jim Bob attended a dating seminar at his family’s church in Junior High. In the seminar, teenagers were encouraged to make two important commitments: first, that they wouldn’t date anyone who wasn’t a Christian, and second, that they wouldn’t date anyone who didn’t love Jesus as much as they did. Jim Bob made both of those commitments—and at the same time, began praying for the girl, then unknown, who would become his wife...

How did you come to the decision to have such a large family? Are you and Jim Bob from large families yourselves?

Jim Bob has one older sister that is three years older than him. Michelle is the baby of seven children. When we first got married we thought we would have maybe two or three children...

What’s a typical day in your house like?

Our #1 goal is to lead our children to seek a close relationship with God & give Him every area of their lives. We have heart to heart talks with each of the older children regularly. We try to keep up with their attitudes & actions. It is a joy to see our children becoming best friends. If they can learn to treat their brothers and sisters like they want to be treated...

How do you support such a large family?

We have lived very frugally, and our family motto is to “Buy used and saved the difference!” We shop at thrift stores and garage sales...

How have your last pregnancies been compared to your 1st?

As with any first time birth experience you might have fear of the unknown. As we approach each birth there are still the concerns of the unknowns such as the labor and delivery, each one has been different but having had the experience over and over does help some. Each time we have prayed for the health of mom and baby, and asked for a healthy, easy delivery...

How does it feel after all those pregnancies?

I don’t think you can call labor and delivery easy no matter how many times you have been through it. Yes, experience helps a lot in working through the whole labor process but like I mentioned previously each labor is different and you just have to prepare yourself health wise and...

When you have to concentrate on running such a large family, how do you allow each child to shine individually?

I know that you teach them all responsibility and core family values, but each child also has a wonderful individual personality...how can Praise your children ten times more than you correct them! That is the counsel we received early on and what we have attempted to do all these years. Granted we have not always successfully carried it out everyday but that has been our goal. Praising good character instead of flattering...

What made you decide to write a book about your family?

We have received thousands of emails over the last several years and it has been impossible to answer all of the questions of how and why we live the life that we live...

How do you and Jim Bob make time for yourselves in such a busy household?

We purpose to go out for a lunch or dinner date weekly. Grandma (Mary Duggar) has helped us to keep our weekly date by baby-sitting, for which we are extremely grateful. We also purpose to never allow the sun to go down without resolving conflicts.

What is the most difficult thing about having a large family?

The hardest thing about raising any number of children is purposing to keep up with their hearts. With as many as we have that is a fulltime job. We try to have regular talks with each one individually on a weekly basis. It is important to learn how to ask the right questions and not have a condemning spirit. They need to know they have a safe place to share their hopes and dreams, challenges and mistakes. This creates a very close relationship.

What is the most wonderful thing about having a large family?

It is fun spending time with 19 of your best friends. It is a blast everywhere we go. There is never a dull moment!

What are your best parenting tips?

Teach our children to love God with all of their heart, soul, mind and strength, and memorize God’s word together as a family...